ROLE OF THE 'VILLAIN'

SOMEONE ASKED: In this blog posts you have mentioned that most of the time the people who are our villains and cause us pain and suffering are our best friends on the astral plane and that they have agreed on the astral plane to cause harm to you so that a lesson that has to be learned will be learned.

Now, one thing that raises a big question mark in my mind is that if these people agree upon the astral plane to take the role of a villain and cause pain and suffering just for the sake that we learn a few lessons, then by doing so are these villains not going to spoil their own karmas?

I mean, one of my dearest friend up there agrees to play the role of a villain in my life to teach me certain lessons, then by doing so will he not be spoiling his own karmas and accumulate fresh ones down on the earth, his levels and vibrations will go down further..?

MY ANSWER: This is a pertinent and relevant question which I am sure must have arisen in the minds of many readers. If souls agree to cause pain in their role as ‘villain’ do they incur fresh Karma? The answer is not so cut and dry but neither is it difficult to understand.

The pain and suffering contracted and agreed upon in the blueprint, DOES NOT attract fresh Karma for the person inflicting the pain. This is termed as completion of past negative karma. Because if every word or action causing pain attracted karmic debt there would be no end to the cycle of negative debts. There has to be some avenue or method of squaring up the accounts. Hence if the ‘villain’ plays the agreed role as per the blueprint there is no accumulation of fresh negative karma. This role can be played both by causing intentional and unintentional pain.

However the key words here are agreed role as per the blueprint. The problem is that neither the villain nor the victim is able to restrict their role to what was agreed in the blueprint. It is very likely, or one could say very human for a person to react and react negatively. Therefore when you are hurt, you will in all likelihood hit back in some way or the other. Here you incur fresh karmic debt as this is out of contract. Now the ‘villain,’ being human and ignorant of the blueprint, also reacts to your reactions, hits back causing you pain. At this point the ‘villain’ will also incur fresh karma as he or she has gone beyond the contract. It is in this manner that through sheer ignorance we keep piling up a mountain of negative debts regardless whether we are victim or villain.

Now the next obvious question that will arise is do we as victim keep quiet and like a doormat get trampled upon just to avoid increasing karma? The answer is no. You have every right to defend yourself from the pain and suffering by whatever means, spiritual or physical. However that right does not grant license to cause intentional and purposeful pain to another human. You have to draw the line between defending yourself and a planned assault. The former is karma free the latter increases karmic debt.

The above thesis will show how precarious is the role of the ‘villain.’ In order to help you complete karma, that soul can land up incurring loads of fresh karmic debt with repeated cycles of negative reactions, all done in ignorance of this law. This probably explains why it requires a very close and loving friend in the astral world to agree to the role of the ‘villain.’

COMPLETING A RELATIONSHIP

In continuation of the previous article, Life Story, I am explaining what it means to complete a relationship and how one can go about doing it.

The blueprint or destiny of a person cannot normally be changed under any circumstances, as it is prepared taking into account the maximum growth opportunity for that particular soul. However embedded in the blueprint are multiple potentials of how one uses spiritual tools, wisdom, courage and free will to come out of difficult situations or painful karmic workouts. It is this part of the blueprint that is variable and is testimony to our evolution lifetime after lifetime.

Meaning that if you do nothing about your painful situation, nothing will change in your life till the entire karma is worked out or the time allotted to the suffering lapses. But you do have the option of responding to your challenges and depending on how you use that opportunity you can either complete the karma or react negatively and possibly incur fresh karmic debt.

Now completing karma can either reduce the time span of suffering or reduce the intensity of pain or mostly both. But the completion does not automatically mean the tormentor will physically move out of your life. For that to happen, you may at times have to use courage and your free will to bring about such a situation.

To complete a karmic relationship there are several methods and tools. For example the Forgiveness Prayer, Soul Communication for release from karmic ties, Manifestation, Neutral Implant and using Love Energy, have produced amazing results. All these methods have successfully altered painful relationships when used repeatedly and with great intensity. What these tools do is ensure that no pain reaches you through the words and actions of the ‘villain’ with whom you want a completion.

When you feel the effect of this insulation then you know that you are working out the karmic bond spiritually and not suffering through it. However the test of when the entire karma is over is when you have completely neutral or even positive feelings towards the erstwhile tormentor. Any lingering of strong negative emotion like hate, anger, fear or hurt, you feel towards that person will indicate karmic ties are not over.

From the sketchy details of the relationship given by the reader, it seems you are stuck in a loveless and painfully mismatched relationship with your spouse. It may be of little consolation to know that you are a member of the world’s largest club called Messed-Up Marriages.

LIFE STORY

Given below are very difficult circumstances of somebody’s life. But I know that so many will relate to them in small or large measure. My attempt is to give this state of affairs a different meaning and possible resolution.

Someone wrote: DEAR NAUSHIR, Thanks for ur kind guidance in every sphere of life. Now my problem is to know that how should one navigate through a marriage in which there is zero love, happiness, understanding or any sharing, caring. Suffocation is the overwhelming feeling and children and society are the only binding factors. Every now and then I tend to plunge into depression. I fail to recollect a second of satisfaction, happiness, or fulfillment. How do one find energy to survive such a relationship. Please give me a reason

My Answer: The above situation is one I have spoken on and counseled some hundreds of times but obviously always in private. Since this is the first time I am writing publicly on failed or difficult marriages, please understand that what I say has universal applicability so that you understand why you are in the situation you face today. I cannot offer specific solutions without knowing the details as the variables in each individual case are too many for a standard formula.

From the details the reader has given I presume separation or divorce is not an option at the moment, for whatever reason. Hence I will go on the assumption that you may have to continue in this relationship for a while longer. I am also presuming this person has not attended any of my empowerment programs or spiritual courses, which would have given a fairly good idea why we find ourselves in these situations and what to do about them. However I am giving my answer in two sections. One is to understand why this happens to you and two, how to best deal with such situations.

KNOW WHY: Every person who plays the role of a big or small ‘villain’ in our lives is chosen by us, allowed by us and mutually consented to play that particular role. Most of the traumatic situations one encounters, which are not a direct result of one’s negative reactions or stupidity, are also contracted and mutually agreed upon. This is what making of the blueprint is all about. This is exactly what we term as destiny. And believe me when I say this, each and every relationship, event, trauma and aspect of your blueprint are planned by you, agreed upon and allowed to come into your life. Since almost all this planning takes place at the non-physical level of existence (read astral), and we come into physicality with thick veils of ignorance over our consciousness, this planning is unknown to us. In fact we humans are not allowed access to astral memory hence we never remember what we do between lifetimes.

I am not going to go into the intricate details of how we plan a lifetime at the spirit level and the dynamics that go into such an unimaginably complex contract, as that is little consolation to the suffering soul. What is more relevant is to know why you would plan trauma and pain for yourself. Does it not sound insane that you would weave suffering into your life when you could as easily design a life filled with supreme happiness, wealth, fun, beauty, and perfect health? Well that’s the difference between a human being and a disembodied soul in the spirit world.

There are some important reasons why we choose suffering in our blueprint. Nobody and I mean not even an Avatar can escape the Universal law of Cause and Effect generally called Karma. Once a negative debt is incurred it must be squared off through suffering, pain or loss regardless of which lifetime that debt was incurred. But this may not be the only reason. At times a soul needs to learn important lessons to overcome and rectify negative qualities or traits it sees as impediments in its spiritual growth. Sadly we humans learn only through pain rather than example. At times a soul wants to go through a particular experience in physical form to educate itself. This is necessary as a soul must record every type of human experience before it can free itself from the life-death cycle. Hence the exact reason why we go through a particular suffering is not known but would definitely fall under one of the broad categories mentioned above.

Now here comes the twist in the tale. To give us suffering we need ‘villains.’ So just like a director of a movie would choose an actor best suited for a role, we too choose the soul who would be in the best position to bring the pain and suffering to us. And who would do that better than a spouse? Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against spouses or marriages. It’s just that the person with closest proximity can inflict maximum pain. The converse is also true. A spouse can also give immense happiness, just depends what role that person is asked to play in your life. Similarly the roles can reverse and at times we also agree to play the villain’s role in somebody else’s life.

And do you know what is most amazing in this entire equation. On most occasions the worst ‘villains’ on the physical plane causing you grievous hurt are your closest and dearest astral friends. Know why??? Because no other soul agreed to play the role of a ‘villain’ for your benefit. I know all this sounds so bizarre, but trust me this is the honest truth.

THE NAVIGATION: Since one of the reasons we choose suffering in our lives is to grow spiritually, it is very important how you deal with traumatic situations. Most times we simply react, inflict intentional pain that is not contracted, and increase karmic debt. But there are better and spiritually mature ways to handle such situations, including moving away from the ‘villain’ in your life. I personally believe one must do SOMETHING other than crying and blaming one’s destiny which in any case is your own handiwork.

Coming specifically to a disastrous marriage. If you intend to salvage the relationship I have taught the use of some very powerful tools to bring about the change required in yourself, your spouse, and also heal the relationship. Some tools use energy the others the power of your Soul. I normally suggest one tries hard to bring about a change and save the relationship. But if the pain is too intense or the relationship is abusive, in short things have gone beyond the point of reconciliation then one must think in terms of ending such a relationship and starting fresh. You owe this to yourself.

A divorce is the logical, legal solution to such a problem, but often it’s a very difficult choice, especially for women in less progressive nations of the east. Two problems referred by the anonymous reader were children and society that kept one bound to a marriage. Here it is a question of overcoming one’s fears. A divorce court will always provide financially for the children. If it’s a question of single parenting, I feel too much hullabaloo is made about it. Millions of children grow up with one parent and grow up to be wonderful, successful human beings, including yours truly. According to me the two parent theory is utter bullcrap. Children are better off with one parent than be subjected to abuse, hostility or disharmony between parents.

That leaves society. Thankfully in the 21^st century divorce is no longer a social stigma it once used to be. Will people talk about it? Sure, but gossip is like a newspaper. The moment it becomes stale it loses all value. So go through the gossip period of a week or month, at least you can have a new lease of life after that.

But it’s very important how you disentangle from a heavily karmic relationship. If the balance karma is left to be worked out then no matter how many relationships you get into, pain will follow. A divorce will only change the face of the ‘villain’ not end the suffering. Hence always complete a relationship spiritually before ending it physically. You know you have completed a karmic relationship if you feel a complete absence of negative emotions for the ‘villain’ including hatred, hurt or guilt. What I’m trying to say is avoid jumping from frying pan to the fire.

All this reminds me of a beautiful couplet by the poet-saint Kabir.

Tu chahe lakh kare chaturai re

Karam ka lekh mitay na re bhai

(Meaning: No matter how clever and cunning you may be, there is no way you can erase your karmic debts).

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GAME, SET AND MISMATCH

Arguably there are two decisions, which to my mind, are the most important and critical decisions a human being takes in his or her lifetime. The first is the choice of a career and the other is the choice of a life partner. One may think both these will be influenced by destiny and the blueprint one is born with. True, but within the blueprint there are multiple options and we do exercise a choice in respect of both career and partner. However let me also clarify that what happens to a majority of people. The destiny to enjoy or suffer a certain career or a certain partner is so strong that external circumstances push us into making a particular choice. Sometimes we are simply blinded by the emotions of the moment and the fuzzy logic function of our brain ensures we take some pretty dumb decisions, which of course we realize in hindsight.

Coming to the choice of a life partner, there is always an element of choice no matter how slim, unless one is getting married at gunpoint or is subject to some other coercion. In most parts of the world the decision to get married is made entirely by the two people concerned. However in South Asia and particularly India the system of family arranged marriages is the norm across large sections of society regardless of caste, community, affluence or education. So predominant is this practice that despite education or international exposure, a child is completely conditioned to believe that choice of a life partner is the prerogative of the parents and family and the individual has a very small role to play in this decision. This is not to say that love marriages don’t take place. They do all the time and increasingly people are asserting their right to decide for themselves, but if one has to see the statistics this would be a woeful minority.

Anyway my issue is not with love marriages or arranged ones, it’s with who takes or influences the final call. In case of love, the issue is settled as fuzzy logic takes over and family, friends and society in short the whole world can go to hell, when two lovers decide to come together. However in arranged marriages, besides the numerous considerations involved and the number of people whose opinions matter, the family astrologer is given top priority and all too often has the dubious distinction of calling the shots.

Now for a moment let me digress from the topic of marriages to astrology.

Q. Is astrology for real? Does it have some semi-scientific basis?

A. Yes to both questions.

Q. Do position of stars at birth and planetary movements really affect us?

A. Astrological birth chart is like taking a sneak peak at your blueprint showing the major potentials in life. Due to magnetic properties, planetary movements thereafter act like timing devices along the way indicating when various windows of opportunities will present themselves, or at times uncover situations and circumstances you have had no hand in bringing into your life.

Q. Can one depend on astrology to give a fool-proof view of our life ahead?

A. NO! MOST DEFINITELY NOT. Astrology suffers from the same limitations as all other divinations and future telling methods. Firstly the competency, expertise and honesty of the astrologer come into question. There is no human who is an infallible expert in any field of divination. It’s always like driving through thick fog. Each one can have several interpretations of the road ahead. Secondly all forms of divinations including astrology only show potentials like a road-map shows the route. It cannot and does not take into account variables like free will and other choices we make.

Now apply astrology to marriage. The astrologer studies both horoscopes, lists the number of qualities or Gunas that are common to both, then pronounces the final judgment; matched or mismatched. Assuming the astrologer is competent all he can see in the stars are the potentials of a relationship between two people. It does not mean the two people are not supposed to come together and the relationship is slated for disaster. WHETHER A RELATIONSHIP IS A SUCCESS OR DISASTER DEPENDS ON HOW THE TWO PARTIES HANDLE EACH OTHER AND NO HOROSCOPE CAN PREDICT THAT.

What I am trying to say is horoscopes are redundant to proscribe the success or failure of a marriage. If the stars could actually foretell that then the whole lot of divorce lawyers would be on government dole. So even when an astrologer predicts doom for a prospective match the couple can have a long, harmonious and fulfilling relationship if they make a little effort to make it work. Conversely a couple slated for a dream marriage by an astrologer could land up in the divorce court in a few years if not months. I am absolutely certain most arranged marriages that fail or where the couples live in misery have been given very high marks by some astrologer before the marriage.

Finally let’s get one thing clear. You cannot cheat destiny. If you have to suffer, complete some karma, learn important lessons there is no way out. So dump the crystal-ball gazers and marry whoever your heart desires, because even if you get a great spouse you can always get the worst boss.